The Problem With a Phony "No".

December 2, 2019

 

 

There is a problem people face when they give a phony no or a phony yes. Some people do not want to deal with the consequences or want people who they have involved in this way to respond to them like a script of something they have seen on heard. The major problem is when people let a “phony” no take up space the person involved will sometimes overstep boundaries and create hazardous conditions for people who are a yes or make you unsuitable for where your yes actually exist. It is often very hard for them to notice and their gossip and discussion then comes from have access to having been in a space that they are otherwise excluded from. So they essential begin to report from what is the “oval office” of your life. If you prefer to eat alone, say that in all honesty. The person in retrospect may actually agree with you. It also becomes problematic to have an unwarranted guest have access to a space they have no privilege or participation in. They would probably have a better time doing something more suitable for them, however their vision makes them fight to get access. Imagine a person who goes to the mall and doesn’t ask the price and knows to purchase items having to interact with someone who is fighting for transportation to the location only to realize they do not have the money or complimentary lifestyle and now will only be able to sit. They could have been at the playground and having money for ice cream. I have realized there is a problem with people not knowing the things that are “killing” them and people who have come into awareness sooner understand these things and get fought at for declining. It may even be a preexisting behavior that is invisible to the naked eye. I often discuss the way somethings I do are like walking a tight rope. The problem can be when people are doing this type of thing but start by focusing on the fact that there is a net under the tight rope. Focusing on the rope often makes people prepare for failure, not see that they have failed, repetitively fail, or start laughing from having a good time and not see the insult or dismissal they are receiving from falling. Especially from people who would never know what they are laughing about in regards to it. There are people who have missed the point of discussion questions all through their educational experience. The thing is you would discuss the questions out loud with peers in attendance and a teacher providing instruction. I am often not interested in having arguments because I am a person who can hear the word “pretty” and have immediate comprehension of some sort. I can categorize and be specific. If there are only “Black” people in the kitchen at the moment, I am not going to address “White” people in the kitchen at that particular time frame. She butter in the cabinet is not lotion in the cabinet. In my life as a person who has been regarded as a leader and a winner I have begun to understand that my constituents, fans, supporters and other words designed to fit into this category sustain momentum and confidence. This makes them have more energy than “usual” for a lack of better terminology in the immediate moment. Imagine a person who has inspired people who would barely write to form and showcase the part of their identity that would be an autobiography that would be read by the “greats” when there is only “one pencil available” in a metaphorical sense. Often we have learned to comply and input other people’s censorship or delivered ourselves in the edits provided to and for others. It is important to tell and speak out truths so that someone can put “us” in our proper censorship model. For instance if I use lyrical analysis for people I would know to provide the entire song in general and have the skill to take the chorus or a particular statement to teach certain demographics with. Some people cannot understand when they are essential advocating for wool sweat suits to be worn in the strip club or no logo’s on the shirt you wear to your employment to reflect who want what represents you and what you represent for support. There is a problem mistaking language and words with emotion and behavior. Hello does not equal happy or I like you, I want to talk to you or I want to be here. People are often using other people’s emotions or stereotypical emotions and not understanding when someone is not responsive or has the wrong idea. Realizing when people with no comprehension of age, timetables, growth and development in multiple facets are literally just people getting biologically bigger in size is important. I would advocate for generations of people who have existed in high chairs so that people will stop acting like a “three year” old cannot learn, develop or understand language and also have an attitude, in addition to being a “sort of” trapped around people who cannot see that they are planning to force feed them mushed carrots soon as they get out of the chair. I will mention again that television watching can cause people to really not analyze or understand in the immediate moment. People also understand later in life why they should have followed a particular direction to get the better interaction for them and for what they would want. There are people in full blown suits and ties or aiming for that when they have been told through education that they have maxed their development at white t shirts and can literally walk around with no clothes on and get pulled in by the proper people who will treat the correctly. Even if you like education, no one would want to have failed at ABC’s and fight for access where people have already read multiple books and directions and when they say they are going to bake a cake, never know why you are looking at them because you would like some. It is automatically understood by participants in that space this it cost money or that it is only for who “I am rolling with”. This makes perfect sense but some people will then be targeted like they are bad people when they are not or as if they are doing something incorrectly. I am also learning that there are people who think that at some point a particular things is inevitable and make plans for a person as if something is going to happen and then when it does not has no other plan for them and may not know how to remove themselves from the person’s life or not get insulted when the person dismisses you. There are people who have spent their entire life waiting for me to give up my educational skill, always have a hair relaxer and then mindlessly participate in circumcision. Where I would hold a prayer group there are people who are waiting for me to have to be reprimanded for something that I have not done and will not be doing. They also cannot see the danger in showcasing visibly to “haters” that I am being targeted because they are attracted to me. It also puts a person in their space that shows them what they are saying they will overlook  for “this person” and then they realize that the behavior is something they actually would never overlook and actually would work with me to “fix”. The problem is wanting to put me in the danger zone to get their way about something and then going to fix things when “we” could have already been collaborating on issues and societal matters. I laugh knowing there are people who keep discussing that they see me walking. I would walk to my workplace as a youth and community worker and this makes perfect sense. This is not a money issue and no I will not apologize for not understanding the insult of others thinking I am being treated badly because I look like a video vixen.

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