I have noticed what happens when people aim to equalize everyone's experience and when I do not do this. I know to comprehend in a way as if a "book is a book". This is the clear and obvious. I can understand there are different stories and genres inside. As a person who works with women and girls and is well versed I can notice the stress that comes from people aiming to live as if every book has the exact same words and story inside. There are women and girls who experience sexual interactions in dark rooms with no comprehension. They may have resulted in pregnancy. They begin to think this is the same for everyone and may get attacked by women they are wanting to support and protect. Imagine that there is a culture of women who learn about sex in a way that goes far enough to discuss the pleasure principle being surrounded by people who still do not know what it is, or think that people should participate in it when it is not enjoyable. Or they get upset at people who know the way to make tired interactions still pleasurable and fun. There are even people who are not participating who have this information or way of exploring sexual identity already manifested in their psyche. There are people who fight against it. I am all for the pleasure principle!